Try To See It My Way

Most couples enter marriage hoping it will last forever-so why are more and more relationships failing? As Dr. B. Janet Hibbs explains, the key to solving most relationship problems-whether relating to money, children, chores, sex, or in-laws-is through a shared sense of fairness. Intuitively, we think we know what's "fair." But as this book reveals, the way we each understand fairness is much more complex, and is powerfully shaped by our family expectations and experiences. 

Dr. Hibbs provides readers with a road map for recognizing imbalances and building a stronger, more loving relationship based on a new kind of fairness. Filled with compassion, practical advice, and compelling, real-life examples throughout, this book offers a groundbreaking understanding of the issues that divide couples over time-and how they can be happier and closer than ever.

B. Janet. Hibbs, Ph.D., is a psychologist and an AAMFT marriage and family therapist and supervisor, as well as a cofounder of Contextual Therapy Associates.

Karen J. Getzen, Ph.D., is the author of Resilient Marriages and is on the faculty of Chestnut Hill College in Philadelphia.

"I found the author extremely insightful, and the exercises very revealing. This book is an easy read. It serves as a guide to create a new model of fairness that really feels fair to everyone concerned. Highly recommended!"

--Feminist Review

"Try To See It My Way covers loyalty conflicts; the annoying daily irritations; conflicts over money, chores, kids and sex; and major issues like addictions, affairs and ongoing injustices.Dr. Hibbs offers straight talk that can change lives."

--The Philadelphia Bulletin